There’s no two ways about the fact that fortunetelling, card reading and psychic readings are an emotional gig. Unless you are telling fortunes for fun, chances are people are coming to see you because they are troubled and in distress. They are looking for answers. If they were easy answers they’d sort them out themselves or go to whichever professional (like a doctor or a lawyer) that they’d need to see. People look for answers from readers because they feel that no one else can help them. So how does a reader protect themselves from some of that emotional fallout?
Firstly be grounded. It is of paramount importance that you are centred within yourself. The more emotionally grounded you are the easier you can deal with other people’s emotional “whirlwinds”. In the Celestine Prophecy they talk about “drama’s”- the struggle for power or energy. What this means is that people will fall into one of the drama’s that they play out in order to get energy (attention) from other people. To be of any real help to a sitter, as a reader you have to avoid falling into their drama. The best way to do that- stay grounded.
Another thing to remember is to draw a line in the sand. You can’t stop other people from making mistakes, or living their lives as they choose. As a reader it is not your job to fix anything. You are simply there to provide insight and advice. The task of fixing their living is always firmly in the hands of your sitter. The easiest way to remember this is to remind yourself that you wouldn’t want someone who thinks they know better to come along and live your life for you, so don’t be tempted to do it to your sitters.
Take regular breaks. Like any kind of emotional work, it is imperative that you take regular breaks from reading. However much time you feel you need to clear your mind and energy. Sometimes you just need a few hours, but sometimes you will need to take days, weeks, months or even years. This is normal. It can be disheartening at times. We get into reading for others because we want to help. And no matter how hard you try, it feels like failure when you can’t help. Breaks are important because they help you put things in perspective. They recharge your batteries and allow you to offer genuine help and readings without doing them because you feel you have to. One of the reasons it’s difficult to make a living as a reader is that when it’s your only source of income you have to do a reading even if you’re not feeling up to it. All that ends up doing is short changing your sitter (who gets a half baked reading) and yourself (because your reputation for accuracy and helpfulness is tarnished). So do yourself and your sitters a favour and take breaks when you need them.
Lastly it’s important to remember that you are supposed to feel emotional when you read. You wouldn’t be reading for others at all if you were selfish and uncaring. It’s a rather intimate bond that the reader and sitter share. Sitters will often share things with us that they haven’t shared with anyone else. We have an insight to their most personal hopes, dreams, and worries. As Uncle Ben said, “with great power comes great responsibility” and that holds true with readings as well. We have the power to build people up, give them confidence and courage, wisdom and tools for dealing with life’s challenges. We do that responsibly by not giving them false hope, or telling them what they want to hear. We do that by finding ways to communicate advice that they may have been hearing from their loved ones for ages but choosing not to see or hear. We do that best by being honest, telling them straight if we don’t have an answer, or telling them what is actually there.
As a reader you can’t protect yourself from the emotional nature of reading. All you can do is learn to deal with it. An emotionally stable reader is one who is confident and grounded; compassionate but firm. A good reader feels their emotions but doesn’t let them rule.