- Your emotional state
- The issues between you and your partner
- Likely outcomes if you continue on your present course
- Lessons you need to learn
- Relationships in general
- Your own personal issues
- Learning about yourself
- Actions you can take to improve your love life
A reading cannot tell you about
- What someone else is thinking
- How a conversation will go
- What someone else wants
- Whether this is the love of your life
- When you will meet someone
- What they will be wearing (or what colour their underwear is)
- What their name is
- Specific details
You get the idea.
Relationship readings can be very useful but you must be very wary that they don’t replace an actual relationship. If you want to know what someone is thinking, ask them. If you don’t feel comfortable asking them, then you don’t have much of a relationship.
To get the most from a relationship reading you need to be clear about what you want to know. Are you uncertain about the state of the relationship itself? Is it something about yourself or your other that is bothering you? Use relationship readings to clarify things with yourself. Take the time to really think through what the reading is telling you. Are you allowing your fears to cloud your judgement?
A good relationship reading will leave you feeling empowered. It will give you the tools you need to make some decisions and allow you to have an idea of likely outcomes if you choose certain actions. It is best to do a relationship reading for yourself when you are calm. Any reading you do for yourself when you are upset will likely be flawed as will your understanding of it. If you need a reading when you are upset, go for a walk first, take time to breathe and get centred again.
If you are seeing someone else for a reading it does help to give them a short background on why you want a reading. A good reader will listen and take that on board and give you relevant information. A bad reader will milk you for information then simply tell you what they think you want to hear. A really bad reader will waste your time if they don’t want to hear a thing about why you are seeing them. The whole “no, no, don’t tell me, I can see it in the cards” approach simply means that the reader is trying to impress you with how wonderful they are. Those that want to help will benefit from a short background which allows them to focus the reading.
Whatever happens, don’t allow relationship readings to take the place of actual relationships. It’s no good sitting at home for months on end constantly asking your cards when are you going to meet someone. If you are stuck at home and never doing anything then the answer will be never. Use relationship readings wisely. Make sure they back up or clarify your actual instincts and resist the urge to see what you want to see in the cards. When reading for yourself, especially with relationship readings, make sure you are writing them all down. Your hindsight really is 20/20 and making yourself write down your readings means that you have to actually think about what you are writing. It allows you to take a step back and see what’s really there.
As we grow and develop as people, reading over your old readings is very rewarding. It is good to see how far you’ve come, how much you have learnt. It’s a great way to remind yourself that you have a lot to offer. Lastly, reading over old readings gives you a chance to see what, if any, patterns you have developed in relationships. You have to see a problem before you can fix it. Of all the things a relationship reading can do for you, this is probably the most important- awareness. Relationship readings can open your eyes to what is happening, when all your hormones and emotions are trying to tell you something different.